Edward Gorey’s Fantod Packwas first published in 1995. It is a 20 card tarot deck featuring a guide to interpreting the cards by Madame Groeda Weyrd.
“Now that you have learned of all the dreadful things that have overtaken your friends and relations during the past year as scribbled on the inside of their Christmas cards, don’t you want to know what dreadful things lie in wait for you?”
This new “sensitive” masculinity, where a softer voice and body, creativity and sensitivity, and sophisticated sensibilities replace alpha male imagery, is dangerous. A man aware of the phrases “toxic masculinity”, “intersectionality”, and “socialization” more often than not will use them as disguised weapons for his soft misogyny, rather than use them to interrogate his own position. Switching from one category of masculinity to another is not a solution. When given the chance, the sensitive artist will enact the same violence as the muscular frat boy, to pretend otherwise is foolish.
we train young girls to ignore their hunger, to walk and stand and sit like ladies, to paint over or cover their pimples and stretch marks and cellulite, and then we are shocked when they grow up and become women who are alienated from their own bodies
people really want to miss the point of this post huh! when you starve yourself to reach a “preferred” body type because the one you have is called ugly; when you moderate every aspect of your movement to fit a feminine ideal; when you perceive harmless features of your face and body as “flaws” that must be covered—that’s being alienated from your physical form! that’s viewing yourself as two you’s, the mind and the body that must be fixed and controlled. that’s my point. not whether or not putting on eyeshadow is enjoyable for you personally. practice some critical thinking.
